July 16 2016
According to the Oxford advanced learners dictionary a University is defined as an institution at the highest level of education where you can study for a degree or do research and the term College is a general one that encompasses a wide range of higher-education institutions. My interest here is not about the university or college but higher institutions in general where there is much freedom.
This is a point in your life where you have to Move out of your parent's house and go to the university, and this is where most brothers and sisters do get it wrong, they feel they can have a fresh start to their lives, where they feel they won't be held accountable by their parents, forgetting the fact that they are still going to be held accountable by Allah Azzawajal which is a huge responsibility. Being exposed to the world this way without parental guidance, is quite risky, and challenging on both spiritual and social status, especially for the sisters, so that's why I am focusing on the sisters Insha Allah.
Dear Muslimah, This is a moment in your life where you need and have to represent Islam in every step you take, in every decision you make and in every word You say. You are meant to be a humble, modest, gentle and work on being a well respected individual. Also keep in mind that the way you present yourself to the society, gives a picture of who you are. Knowing the purpose of you being in school is another thing you need to consider.
Painfully the world we find ourself today is quite disturbing when you see how Muslim sisters live their life in the university. Looking at the aspect of indecent dressing on the campus, it has become the order of the day, where you can't even differentiate the Muslim sisters from the non-muslim sisters, because most Muslim sisters dress almost naked in tight outfits. Audhubillah!
Most of the Muslim sisters (although not all) behaving badly in the university come from a well disciplined and respected homes, where their parents do not tolerate any form of indiscipline, bad dressing and so on, but when they come to school and gain that freedom, they feel they can do whatever they want without anyone judging them, they now start behaving in a way that even some non-muslim sisters won't. And amazingly when they go back home, they continue pretending to be the good and well behaved individuals their parents know them to be. They end up living a double life. Which we all know ends badly .
Dear sister, the question here is: do you fear Allah or your parents? If you can decieve your parents, well Masha Allah! But do you think you can decieve Allah?
"No vision can grasp him, but his grasp is over all vision; he is subtle well-aware" (Qur'an 6:103)
"Your creation and your resurrection will not be but as that of a single soul. Indeed, Allah is Hearing and Seeing." (Quran 31:28)
Do not think for a second that you are deceiving anyone, but the fact is that you are deceiving no one but yourself. Because this is something that would reflect back in your life later in the future, you might think people are not observing you but they are, and that is how they will keep a record of you and that is how they will remember you except for those who fear Allah and repent.
"except for those who repent thereafter and mend (their conduct): for Allah is all-forgiven most merciful. " (Qur'an24:14)
It is actually embarrassing as a Muslim sister, when you meet someone and he/she ask if you are a Muslim? Sisters your dressing, your character, most importantly your "Haya" (modesty) should be sound enough to prove to everyone that you are a muslimah.
As a muslimah you are not meant to be found among any set of misbehaving students, you should not engage in any act of examination malpractice, mingling around with lecturers, hanging out with guys and relating with them as if they are your mahram, and making friends with girls that are morally deficient. The people you choose to be in the company of plays a vital role in your life, and this is something Allah azzawajal warned us against:
"O you who believe! Fear Allah and be in the company of those who are truthful". (Qur'an 9:119)
Dear sister, it is of great importance that you concentrate on the main purpose why you're in school (i.e to seek knowledge), and also try keeping away from places where Allah is disobeyed, you should be found in the company of righeous people. The most important thing is to chose your friends wisely. Also keep in mind that your Hijab is your modesty. And your modesty is your pride, it is your responsibility to guard your aurah at all cost. Because you don't own your body, your body is only a uniform/garment for your soul, it is an amanah given to you by Allah.
" And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (ordinarily) appear there of; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their brothers or brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male attendants free of sexual desires or small children who have no carnal knowledge of women; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments, And O you believers!! Turn you all together towards Allah in repentance that you may be successful." (Qur'an 24:31)
Do you dress indecent because you feel that's the only way you can attract men's attention towards you? Because you feel that the only way to be the hottest girl on campus? Then you're on the wrong path, you are giving the opposite sex a wrong impression of you, and believe me you'll only attract the wrong group of people, because it is clear that:
"Women impure are for men impure, and men impure are for women impure, and women of purity are for men of purity and men of purity are for women of purity...". (Qur'an 24:26)
So my beloved sisters, it's high time we realise the truth and the reality of this life and mend our ways for this dunya is nothing but a distraction that will last for only a short period of time. School is for learning and we go to the university to acquire knowledge and then make use of it so that the society will benefit from you, as we are lacking educated Muslim sisters in the society, especially in gynecology aspect, tight your belt sisters and make your parents proud and the society at large. It is not too late to repent, for Allah is all forgiving most merciful.
May Allah Azzawajal keep us steadfast on the Deen, and grant us the ability to distinguish between right and wrong.
co-author: Amina Faruk
is a graduate of Microbiology from University of Maiduguri, a simple and gentle soul, content with what she have, grateful to Allah for her life and Health. Being a Muslim is her greatest gift of life, writing is in her nature, Islam is her personality.
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